Clingy.

we turn into this monster for numerous reasons. not just being cheated on, lied to or anything that'll somewhat traumatize you for some apparent reason. i cannot deny that i went through this phase also and i ain't proud that i did. that really wasn't my thing.

when you're in a relationship, the constant need for you to see them, know where they are, who they're with and what they're doing is a natural thing, but give em' a little space to play also. when i say play, i mean spend time with their own friends and have a good time with them. for me it may be drinking, sports, games or whatever comes into mind except for flirting around or fucking around. its just a matter of balancing and budgeting your time accordingly.

one text/call when the plans come up, another to let em know you're on the way and another one to let em' know you just got home is enough. if you feel like texting/calling while you're there and your partner ain't asking, then by all means do so. this gives a sense of security for your partner which is one of the ingredients to a healthy relationship. if your partner does the same, then lucky you. if they don't then don't expect or demand for its a one way trip to a fight turning your relationship to a train crash just waiting to happen or it'll only destroy the trust in your relationship. ending up, can you still love a person you cant trust? "i trust you" is more valuable than "i love you" remember that.

hindering your partner from being friends with the opposite sex will only push em' more to deceive you. some men are more comfy opening up to women and vice versa. i'm pretty sure you agree with me on this its really different from opening up with the same sex but know your limits of course. doesn't mean if your partner allows you to go out a lot with the opposite sex, you take advantage of that fact and make a window for you to cheat. karma will get back at you and when it does it bites you fucking hard.

but other than that. i'll give you a scenario wherein someone is tempted to cheat. let's say that your relationship is in a very unstable state and you get acquainted with someone new which is also the complete opposite of your current partner. since you're getting to experience something new, you cling to the hope it would be different with them but as time passes by turns out its the same and you find yourself in the same dilemma again. then the "shoulda, woulda, coulda" hits you. "i could've just compromised with the first one".

here's my hand, saving you either from a break up or a bad relationship.

learn to give the benefit of the doubt.

So, my point is. if you're clingy, better learn how to stop that or...nah, go ahead. learn the lesson yourself.